A Day in the Life of an Expat: Shields Up!

by Rebecca A. Watson on January 27, 2015

in expat, writing

Beyonce’s Run the World: Girls blares through my headphones as I close the door to my apartment. Do I even need to lock it? I wonder. All doors in Germany seem to lock the second they shut. We’ve always got to remember our keys.

Half-aware, I exit the main entrance of the house and walk to the gate. Two ladies stand in front of my house chatting. I squeeze by them as I catch the eye of a man on his bicycle.

He smiles and waves. I start to smile but hold it back — better not to give him the wrong idea. Not like that’s much of an issue here.

My heels clack to the rhythm of the Rihanna’s Hard and my hips follow. My first pair of heels since 2011. I feel like bitch Goddess Lilith, I think. Maybe I should wear them more often, but this thought’s interrupted by the twist of my ankle over a fountain grate.

Not quite the grace I was hoping for.

yellow heels

And to think I used to dance in these!

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7 Steps to Drinking in Moderation

by Rebecca A. Watson on January 22, 2015

in Recovery, vlogs

One night several years ago, I decided that I’d start to make tea after dinner in an effort to stop myself from drinking more than my alloted two glasses of wine. To my surprise, after a few minutes I didn’t really want to drink any more wine.

It worked! I thought. I’ve figured out this moderation thing! And it did work.

Until it didn’t. I began making tea later and later. Then I stopped making it altogether. This is just one of the many types of experiments I did during my moderation research.

drinking in moderation

Now I’m a tea fiend. I even make up recipes.

In order to share these findings, I’ve made a video for you. If you’re not keen on watching it all, I’ve provided the Cliff’s Notes below. [click to continue…]

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Bloom: Creative Ways to Use Your Spiritual Gifts

by Rebecca A. Watson on January 19, 2015

in Art, life, writing

This weekend Sante and I finally got around to watching Ray, the biopic piece on Ray Charles’ life, or a portion of it anyway. After the movie, (which is worth watching — Jamie Foxx is brilliant) Sante said, “Those musician movies are all the same.”

I agreed, and added, “Honestly, all the stories about drug and alcohol use are the same. They always stop after the person gets clean. It’s like the only thing people want to see is the shitty stuff that happens before that.”

Sante shrugged and said, “That’s because bad stuff makes good stories.”

This is true. I’ve written about this before, albeit about good memories. And it dawned on me that for the longest time I’ve been trying to shift that somehow, as if I alone could change how people’s minds work. But what really needed to shift was my mind. [click to continue…]

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MIA for a bit: Puppy Time!

January 7, 2015

Hey all! I had some posts planned for when I got back from California, but it turns out the Universe had different plans. Meet Neka: She is a bundle of energy and love. She is also young and needs a ton of attention and training. And I caught the nasty bug that’s been roaming around […]

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MMP: Blogging Without (Much Of) A Censor

December 29, 2014

At the beginning of this year I had an idea: Blog like no one’s reading. Basically I wanted to stop censoring what I write. When I was younger I was censored. As I got older, I self-censored. This year-long exercise turned into my Monday Morning Pages, which helped me start writing more from my heart, […]

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MMP: Happy Solstice or The Cure for Worry

December 21, 2014

“I’m not telling you,” my husband said, “because you’re a worrier.” Shocked, I replied back, “I am not. When do I ever worry?” Sante then proceeded to list off three things I was concerned about and had brought up in conversations. This week. Point conceded. It would appear, ladies and gentleman, that I have a worrying problem. While […]

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5 Christmas Movie Scenes I Frickin’ Love

December 18, 2014

I’m getting ready to fly to San Francisco (yay for Mexican food and the ocean!!) and I have been working like mad, which means my hands are hurting. (Boo for carpal tunnel!!) So since I’ve been getting pretty serious lately, writing about race relations and depression, I decided to give us all a break. Here are some […]

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MMP: New Year’s Optimism

December 15, 2014

I am an Aries through and through. This means that I love a fresh start. Not only do I love a fresh start, I am almost always optimistic about it. It’s probably what got me through two divorces, although I’m sure it’s also caused me a bit of trouble now and then too. As we […]

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Here’s Why to Resist the “Not All White People” and “Not All Cops” Argument & What to Do Instead

December 11, 2014

About half a year ago there were two trends on Twitter that got a lot of attention: #YesAllWomen and #NotAllMen. Without getting into it too much, it had a lot to do with women getting harassed, raped and killed and how not all men were like that. I read an excellent article about how arguing “Not all men […]

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MMP: Don’t Doom the Season

December 8, 2014

“It’s just a rough time of year for me,” I said in my therapist’s office last week. “I think it’s a rough time of year for everyone.” “You can’t possibly believe that. You told me what a nice time you had decorating your house last week,” she replied back. “Don’t doom the whole season just […]

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