Pros and Cons of Quitting Drinking

by Rebecca A. Watson on February 7, 2016

in Recovery

I used to keep a journal of my new years resolutions and goals for every year. And one year, along with the usual “drink less” or “care less about my drinking” or some form of not drinking resolution was a list of pros and cons of drinking.

I am kind of stunned at how different my thinking was back then to now. I mean, of course it was. My brain is healing. But the list of cons was long, and read like a giant justification:

  • Not able to try wine and beer with my husband
  • Isn’t quitting drinking “too extreme?”
  • Won’t I alienate friends?
  • Isn’t life just more fun with alcohol?
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The answer is no.

So, I thought I would make a list now, as a person who’s not drank in a few years, to show you what I honestly think about not drinking. Because there are pros and cons, but not the ridiculous ones that ran through my head a few years ago.

PROS CONS
No hangovers – emotional or physical Hard to unwind sometimes
Far fewer mood swings Still a coping mechanism I can’t turn to
More awareness over triggers/old scripts Telling new people I don’t drink feels awkward
More confidence in myself Feeling shame over being an alcoholic
Financial security Sometimes miss wine while cooking
Inner stillness Being at parties
when everyone is drunk sucks
Remembering everything I do Random cravings throw me off
Enjoying achievements
Less shame and guilt
Less worry about messing up everything I have
Better friend and partner
More hobbies!
More time in general
Very little thinking about drinking
Therapy is working faster
Choosing better people in my life
Better at setting boundaries
In better shape
I remember things and learn faster
Sober sleep is so wonderful
Fewer health concerns
More able to trust and let go of illusion of control

Yes there are a few cons on there. But really, they aren’t something I feel every day or even every month for that matter. As the saying goes, if I knew then what I knew now, well … I would’ve quit a long time ago.

But we all have our time. And I think I quit at the exact right moment. I’m happy about where I am now and what I learned while drinking, even if there are times I am embarrassed or wish something had turned out differently.

For instance, I learned that when traveling overseas, it's best to double check your flight time the day before so as not to miss said TransAtlantic flight.

For instance, I learned that when traveling overseas, it’s best to double check your flight time so as not to miss said TransAtlantic flight.

What about you? Do you have cons or pros that aren’t on my list? I’d love to hear them.

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And the Word of My Year is …

by Rebecca A. Watson on January 31, 2016

in change, goals, life, love, Tarot Transcribed

So perhaps you’ve noticed I’ve been MIA on the blog for a bit. It’s been a perfect storm of family visiting and holidays, and my hosting service having trouble keeping my site online during the highest traffic times of the year.

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That’s OK. I found other things to do with my time :)

Oh, and I started a job. Yes, an office job where I work 40 hours a week. Where I commute every day. Where I actually have to put real clothes on every morning and make sure my teeth are brushed before 7:30. [click to continue…]

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Around the Web with Rebecca

by Rebecca A. Watson on January 9, 2016

in feminisim, health, love, weekends, writing

This started as a way for me to share my writing — I often publish on other blogs. But it’s also turned into a place for me to share the best of what I’ve read and seen this week.

I figured I better hook you up with this list on the weekend, so you can sit down with a nice cup of coffee, relax and take your time with it.

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What Alcohol Does to Your Brain

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1000 Days Without Booze: A Case for Counting Days

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Saturday marked my 1000th day as a non-drinker. A teetotaler, I guess folks like me are sometimes called. I hadn’t really thought too much about how many days it had been since I quit drinking until I saw a few other bloggers (Amy at Soberbia is one of my favs) mark their 1000th day. That got me thinking, […]

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This started as a way for me to share my writing — I often publish on other blogs. But it’s also turned into a place for me to share the best of what I’ve read and seen this week. I figured I’ll keep hooking you up with this list on the weekend, so you can […]

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6 Tips for Folks with Loved Ones Living Abroad

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Before I left for Germany, a few people were concerned that we would no longer be close. Or that we’d lose touch completely. I assured them that wouldn’t happen. How could I be so sure? Because I was once on the other side of this exchange. Actually a few times. My sister lived overseas for […]

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This started as a way for me to share my writing — I often publish on other blogs. But it’s also turned into a place for me to share the best of what I’ve read and seen this week. I figured I better hook you up with this list on the weekend, so you can […]

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Felines and Filthy Evil

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At our writers group we were given three sentences or phrases and were told to incorporate them into a story. They were pretty random and you can see more here. This is what came out of that exercise. I haven’t had much going on lately but that isn’t important (to you). Your story holds court in […]

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This started as a way for me to share my writing — I often publish on other blogs. But it’s also turned into a place for me to share the best of what I’ve read and seen this week. I figured I better hook you up with this list on the weekend, so you can […]

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The Hard Copy of My Book is Available!

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As much as I love me some technology, when it comes to reading (newspapers, books, cereal boxes) I am totally old school. That’s why when I wrote my book, it was super important to me that I be able to hold it in my hot little hands. Imagine my delight when I got my first […]

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