Discovering Your Soul’s Purpose

by Rebecca A. Watson on August 28, 2014

in Life Coaching Services

I remember driving one of my friends home years ago after a particularly wild night of partying. Both of us were a little blurry eyed — we’d finished a greasy breakfast, doing our part to avoid the inevitable hangover brewing.

“I just feel like I’m meant for so much more than this,” she sighed. “Like, I feel like I was put on this earth to do big things. I just have no idea what.”

I echoed that sentiment. I’d always felt much the same. I’d graduated college and gotten a job in my field, but I couldn’t shake the fact that I was wasting my life.

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It took awhile, but several years later I’ve found my purpose. I live it every day, writing for myself and helping others as well. And I’m super-excited to share what I’ve learned through my new group program, Discovering Your Soul’s Purpose.

This program is perfect for:

  • Anyone feeling disconnected from themselves
  • People who feel like they were meant for more than what they’re currently doing
  • Folks who struggle to get clear on their own wants and needs

In this program I’ll teach you:

  • How to journal and connect with your intuition in a meaningful way
  • To connect with your needs, wants and soul’s desire
  • How to set realistic goals to to put you on your soul’s path

Oh my goodness, I am so thrilled to be starting this program. And it starts soon! The first class begins Tuesday, September 9th.

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So what exactly will we be doing? How will this all work? Well, here’s the scoop:

  • You sign up and fill out a (super short) questionnaire. Then we’ll have a 30 minute private call where we’ll talk about how to make the program work best for you.
  • We’ll have five weekly one-hour tele-classes similar to how my complementary class was held. They’ll be recorded to if you miss one, you can listen later.
  • I’ll also send you writing prompts every week designed to go along with our lessons.
  • I’m available for email support during this time. I encourage you to mail me with questions, updates and issues that come up.
  • I’ll also help you interpret one page of your writing weekly via email.
  • You can share your successes, frustrations and updates with others in the group via a private Facebook page.
  • After the classes are finished, you and I will have another private 30-minute phone call where we can talk about your progress and set up steps to continue your progress.

The total cost of the program is $297, and I’m limiting the group size to keep things intimate. I find that works better for me and my students.

You can join the class by clicking the buttons below. If you have questions, please email me.

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I’m really looking forward to this! I hope you’ll join me :)

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The people that know me well know I’ve had some pretty intense dreams. From falling in love with a devil named Marty to lucidly dreaming I was a zombie, my sleeps are filled with adventure.

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Of course, so is my waking life!

Because of this, I’m a bit of dream analyst. I keep a notepad near my bed and record dreams, which I usually write about in my morning pages.

This was the case in 2012, when I felt the need to write about my hometown:

Even in the dream I felt stymied by Grand Rapids [that's Minnesota, not Michigan] — like I dream too big for this place. It was all dark and rainy the whole time. I just felt depressed.

What parts of you do you think that dream is referring to? Maybe the parts that are stuck there, that can’t let go of the past? I didn’t think I really had those BUT it’s clear there are parts of me that are still pissed at [my abusers] and hate that town.

It’s not that I hate it — it’s that I don’t want to spend time there. I guess I could go when Ezra or Julie is there and then it would not be so bad. We’ll see.

Yes, you should go some time. OK. Some time I’ll go. It is a beautiful place and I do have some good memories and I do want Sante to see it someday.

And in 2013:

I mean, I do feel like I’ve forgiven but I think I need to let go of ever being able to understand my abuse like I would read a book. And that makes me sad, because I just want to know. Universe, please help me to let go of this.

My intuition is telling me to send a letter. So I wrote and sent a letter to [one abuser]. I have no idea what to expect, and of course that scares me, but honestly I know in my heart it was the right thing to do.

I mailed it without much fanfare on my way to our new house, which meant I couldn’t be all dramatic about it.

How are you feeling about it? OK. Like it was definitely the right thing to do, even if it’s scary. And that’s really what I’m wanting to do. Let go of that old stuff. Put the ball in someone else’s court. Let them deal with it for a while, or not at all, but at least I’m done with it. And that’s really how I feel.

Ladies and gents, I am in my hometown. Have been for a better part of a week now … that picture up there? Me as a cowardly lion? That’s a Grand Rapids original.

I felt it calling me all summer. Of course, it could be the romance of the Minnesota summers, but I think it’s something more. I think it’s sort of a coming home after the hero’s journey, with my eyes open. And my eyes are  wide open. I’m a different person.

I love this town — this state — for what it is, what it was for me and also for showing me how I’d held a resentment against it because of my hurts.

I feel like I can leave the past in the past, where I’ve learned from it. And I’ve actually forgiven. This is the journey of healing and peace. A retreat. I’m astonished at the human I’ve become.

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Never has The World card made more sense to me.

I can’t stop thinking about this quote from my devotions/meditation book earlier this week:

“Never does the human soul appear so strong
as when it foregoes revenge
and dares to forgive an injury.”

~E. H. Chapin

Wondering what this Monday Morning Pages thing is all about? Read how it started. Or check out all the archives.

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4 Ways to Cultivate Acceptance

by Rebecca A. Watson on August 21, 2014

in change, life, Values, worry

So awhile back I started writing down what values are important to me. I came up with a list of like 50. I decided to go in alphabetical order, which led to to write about abundance first, a loaded topic for many of us.

Next up on my giant list (you can see the whole thing here) is acceptance. I’d like to think that I know something about this. I’ve moved through some pretty big ground in my short life and thought I would share how I try to get into acceptance.

1. Get into nature. There are so many beautiful things nature can teach us and one of the best ones is that seasons change. There is no denying that summer turns to fall and the light starts to fade a bit more each night. It’s hard to insist that everything will stay just like you want it when even the most beautiful and perfect flowers wither, die and return to the ground.

It’s hard to ignore my feelings or find a distraction when I’m out hiking. So often what I like to deny is what’s going on inside of me, so getting quiet next to the river gives me a moment to not only listen to myself but also realize it just is. And that’s OK.

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Nature inspires awe and acceptance.

2. Embrace the dorky sentiments. “It is what it is” isn’t popular because it’s so innane. Although maybe not everyone who uses it understands, it’s a way of saying that you can’t change what is.

You must accept it and change yourself. Or live in denial, refuse to evolve and evaporate.

So while you might get a little annoyed by “Whatever happens, happens,” or “Take it as it comes,” and the like, they’re more than just phrases uttered by folks who aren’t paying attention. In fact, sometimes they are the ones who are paying attention.

3. Stop taking things personally. So much of what we get upset about — the things we want to change and avoid and deny — is more about us taking things personally. I’ve been finding this more and more as I practice this. (I picked it up from The Four Agreements, an excellent read.)

So many things I wish would be different or that I’ve really refused to accept are things I take personally. And I’ve learned that as much as my ego wants me to believe it, nothing is really about me.

Not the careless comment I take to mean I’m lame for not drinking, not the rude Facebook message I’m still struggling to understand and not even the abuse I suffered as a child. None of that was about me. And it makes all of it so much easier to stomach when I look at it from that perspective.

4. Understand you’re not always meant to understand. As most parents know, curiousity can be something of an annoyance after awhile. To better illustrate that point, I bring you this gem from Louis C.K.

Although I’m no longer a child, I often ask why. Or I want to know why not. Or I’d like you to explain to me a contradiction.

I know that I do this because one day in German class my teacher finally had it.

“Nicht ‘Ja aber,’ Rebecca! Nicht ‘Ja aber’!”

This roughly translates to, “No more ‘yes, but …’ from you Rebecca. Just accept that this language makes no sense to you and speak it.”

When you try and understand something, you’re trying to find a box in your head that it will slide into. Or a chest of drawers. And when it doesn’t fit you’re left hip checking it like I do Sante’s overflowing sock drawer.

So just let it be. It doesn’t have to fit somewhere. It can sit there and exist and you don’t have to do a damn thing about it.

Acceptance is like exercise and, actually, language skills. You’ve got to practice it. You’re never done learning it. You just keep trying new things and different techniques, keeping the ones you like and letting other folks use the ones you don’t.

What acceptance tactics do you use? I’m curious as I keep cultivating this habit.

P.S. The second part of my writing class is next week. You can still sign up and listen to part one as a replay!

This is an ongoing series about values. You can read the archives here or check out my entire list of  those that are important to me.

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MMP: Mountain Climbing

August 18, 2014

A  few weekends ago, I went bouldering with some friends. For those of you who are like me and have never heard of this, it’s basically rock climbing in a gym but at heights that allow you to fall onto mats without much worry. It was delightfully fun, even though I wasn’t particularly good at […]

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WC Sitzen, Bauhaus Installation

August 14, 2014

This will be a more visual post as I have hurt my thumb and am using voice recognition software to type my blog post. It’s new software and proving more difficult to use so I’d rather post pictures. So imagine my delight when I went to buy a toilet seat yesterday and found a virtual […]

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MMP: Moving or Standing Still, You’re Still You

August 11, 2014

Several years ago, Sante and I took a trip to Italy. We told everyone it was our honeymoon, but really he was interviewing for a job. A job he ended up not getting. You can probably imagine how bummed I was at first. I mean, after all, being an expat has been a dream of […]

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A Letter to My Non-Expat Self

August 7, 2014

Partially inspired by an old post and partially inspired by a comment on this post, I’ve decided to write a letter to the self I was before I lived overseas. Not the one who knew just one year ago she was moving, mind you. Nope, the one circa 2012 perhaps. The one who was blissfully […]

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MMP: You Can Learn Your Karmic Lessons

August 4, 2014

I’m a firm believer in the fact that life is going to send you the same lesson over and over until you learn it. I can’t remember where I heard it, but essentially they’re your karmic lessons. I mean, how else do you explain the string of abusive relationships I’d chosen, each one more twisted […]

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Happy Anniversary to Us: One Year in Germany!

July 29, 2014

I’m taking a break from the Monday Morning Pages this week because we’re celebrating our one year anniversary of living in Germany! Normally I’d pull some quotes out of my journal about what I experienced this week last year, but I thought it’d be nice to hear from my other half, Sante! I’m delighted to […]

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Sober is Not A Uniform

July 27, 2014

There’s this fashion blog I used to read a lot.  I liked it because Alison, the woman who writes it, is realistic about what kind of money one might really spend on things. She encourages readers to do things that actually matter, like get a real bra fitting and use proper hangers for different articles […]

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