5 Things a Trailing Spouse Needs to Thrive

by Rebecca A. Watson on May 20, 2015

in expat, Germany, life

Last night I went to my first reading in Germany. In my attempt to be more of a writer, I’m doing things like submitting my work more often, leading a writers group and hanging out with authors. Cause, you know, that’s what I’ve read we expat authors do.

The author? Brittani Sonnenberg.

The book? Home Leave, a loosely autobiographical book about growing up living on several continents. Fantastic stuff, fascinating really, whether you’re an immigrant or not.

At the reading Brittani talked about some of the words we use to describe people in these situations. Third culture kid. Global nomad.

moab rest

I like to camp. I like to travel. Am I a global nomad? Proooobably not, cause I own a piano.

She brought up trailing spouse and said it brought visions of a person being dragged behind another. [click to continue…]


How to Bloom

by Rebecca A. Watson on May 12, 2015

in goals, happiness

What does a girl need to bloom? I’ve been asking myself this question lately, as it’s now May (!) and this year’s mission has been exactly that.

I decided to look at it from a flower’s perspective, since when I think of bloom, I see petals outstretched and smell the sweetness only nature can produce.

Plus it's lilac season. *happy sigh*

Plus it’s lilac season. *happy sigh*

Here’s what I (and the flowers) need to bloom:

  • Sunshine — In the literal sense most definitely, this is true. This winter I struggled with what might be my first experience with SAD. (The jury’s still out as I head to more specialists this week.) So I’ve been taking some naps in the sun. But also I like to think metaphorical sunshine is a moment of pure bliss, which I get when I play with Neka or play the piano.
  • Water — I must be a reincarnated mermaid the way I drink water. And my irrational fear of dehydration steered me clear of the desert for years. I’m often sticking my feet in mountain streams, and the ocean ranks at the top of things I miss about CA. But metaphorical water is a big deal for me too. I have very little of it in my astrological chart, which means it’s great that one of my closest friends is a Scorpio.
  • Food — We just made an amazing lime avocado risotto this weekend for our girls night. I don’t need to tell you I’m a fan of food and cooking in general. I’ve been feeding my mind a lot lately too, which means new books, coordinating a writer’s group and devouring amazing articles.

A good read makes you forget where you are.

  • Roots — I feel like I worked on this in the beginning of the year, what with the new piano and a new member of the family, but it’s true that plants roots grow throughout their life, so I’m learning to slowly settle into these things. I’ve got two new German courses for besser Deutsch sprechen. I’m exploring the smaller paths around my house (oh that’s where that ends up!) and we’ve got our first German wedding this month. I’ve also committed to another year of therapy. I want strong roots :)
  • Air — This weekend we hiked up up up to Schauinsland, the highest mountain in our area. And it was so clear, we saw the snow covered Alps while we picnicked on quinoa salad, hummus sandwiches and cupcakes. Now there is some air I can breathe! But metaphorically, I think that stretching and yoga represent ways for me to bloom, and in the past year I’ve been spending a lot more time in silence. The emptiness of it all refreshes me.
Just one of the views from our latest hike.

Just one of the views from our latest hike.

This post is more a friendly reminder to me that I am blooming, that I am trying and that I am making progress in this amazing year 2015. But I also want to know from you: What makes you bloom?

Photo Credit: Mo Riza


Polite Tragedy

by Rebecca A. Watson on May 7, 2015

in Creative Writing, feminisim, women

looking down

Cross to the other side of the street
Decline help with heavy groceries
Turn — walk the other way
Chain the door
when that voice in your gut roars. [click to continue…]


10 Animals Who Inspire You to Stretch

May 4, 2015

I don’t like to stretch before I work out. I do it because I know I should, but I don’t enjoy it. Once in a while I do a P90X stretch routine though. It’s an hour of stretching, which seemed excessive to me at first, but every time I do it, I feel like a […]

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13 Great Quotes About Friendship

April 30, 2015

It’s my good friend Amy’s birthday today, and since I can’t bake her a cake and have her over for coffee and knitting, I thought I’d put together some quotes about friendship. “A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently […]

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4 Myths About Germany

April 27, 2015

It never fails. Every time I talk to a friend back in the U.S. or we meet up with colleagues passing through from America, I hear some fantasy about Deutschland or the German people. Not that I blame them. I had a lot of these same ideas before I moved here as well. But now, […]

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You Don’t Have to Be a Drunk to Quit Drinking

April 23, 2015

There. I’m giving you permission to stop drinking alcohol even though you only have a few glasses of wine three or four times a week. Even if you only drink on the occasional weekend with friends. Even if you don’t remember the last time you really got drunk. Even if you haven’t hit rock bottom. […]

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Hot & Cold

April 20, 2015

It’s the first hot day — the kind that has no business showing up in April. And it’s fallen on a Saturday, so you have no choice, no excuse, to not enjoy it. The sun competes with the river in a staring contest, and you have a front row seat, your favorite rock assures you of […]

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Happy Birthday to Me & Happy Weekend to You!

April 16, 2015

OK so maybe it’s not quite the weekend, but let me tell you something: Thursday has always been my favorite day simply because it was almost the weekend. There’s something palatable in the air. People are excited, making plans. And since it’s my birthday, of course I am both excited and making plans There have been two […]

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How I Found My Brand

April 13, 2015

I’ve never been much of a tattoo girl. I mean, I liked them in a superficial way — viewed them more like jewelry really. But since it was jewelry you couldn’t take off, it wasn’t for me. The long game wasn’t my strong suit, I guess. Two divorces under my belt and loads of unfinished book […]

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