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Reincarnating Pandora


2012
08.20

Once upon a time I stopped writing this blog in order to put my energy into a novel. I’ve spent several months shopping it around to agents and publishers, so we’ll see what happens there.

fingers crossed for luck

For the longest time I didn’t want to talk about my book. It was strange, like I was embarrassed about my work. Or maybe afraid that people would laugh at it. Can you say “fear of criticism?”

But after telling the story to several people in person, I can’t believe I don’t have something about it on my blog. Silly Rebecca!

The novel, Reincarnating Pandora, weaves the mythological narrative of Pandora into my present-day memoir. It’s written in the third person, mostly because I felt I lived outside my body, watching myself, for most of my life.

Rebecca, a 27-year-old workaholic, wakes up one day to find herself divorced and virtually friendless. What’s worse is she’s been roped into a plot by the gods, so now she knows she’s crazy too.

Zeus and Athena reincarnate an increasingly frustrated Pandora through centuries on Earth, struggling to get the plot of her reality TV show correct. Rebecca has become Pandora’s latest vessel.

The gods’ entertainment threatens to implode when Loki, a minor god, stumbles upon Pandora during the New England witch-hunts. Loki sees her as the ticket out of his boring, dead-end job in mischief.

He jumps into the life of an irresistible, struggling actor trying to seduce his high-school sweetheart Rebecca. Pandora and Rebecca must work together to break the cycle of failure, for the gods, humanity and themselves.

Pandora by Jules Joseph Lefebvre

Pandora by Jules Joseph Lefebvre

When my fifth grade teacher read the myth of Pandora to our class, I became incensed. Of course, the story of Adam and Eve was spoon fed to me as a toddler, so I didn’t quite get the sexism behind that, but it rang out loud and clear in this story.

This was long before I’d heard or understood the word feminism. It just seemed ridiculous to blame all the world’s problems on one person — one woman. So I rewrote the myth. As an 11-year old.

When I got older, something happened, and I scoured my world to find that piece of paper. I even tried to get in touch with my fifth grade teacher on the off-chance that he still had it. No dice.

So I figured I’m a bit more grown up, know a little more about life and I happen to be a writer, so I rewrote the myth again. And out of that came this novel.

I’m thrilled to be writing for Sunny Sanguinity again and I don’t intend to take a sabbatical like that for my next book, but I think it was a good exercise for my first. And hopefully, when you read it, you will too.

 

Who doesn’t love a change of heart?


2010
05.19

Someone asked me recently if I was fickle. I had to think about it. When I looked it up, the definition was inconsistent and given to change. But it came from an old English word that meant deceitful.

What I want to know is when did changing become a bad thing? There is an inherent difference between lying and changing your mind.

I guess one could say “Wait. I changed my mind, I did steal your lunch,” but I think most of us can all agree that that is deceit. And just downright wrong. Who steals lunch?!?

I think fickle has gotten a bad rap. I’ve heard La donna è mobile. I know what people are saying about women and apparently spring. (*Gasp* And it’s my favorite season!)

fickle NYC

And it’s true. I propose that being changeable makes you able to evolve and move throughout life. If nothing was able to change, there wouldn’t be butterflies, humans would cower at lightning, and I wouldn’t be writing this blog.

So I proudly answer the question: Damn straight I’m fickle!

Movie Clip Monday (not for the faint of heart)


2010
05.17

I just spent the week in New York City, so I thought it only fitting that I post something related to the Big Apple. And what better than a little Saturday Night Live? (Fair warning to those who don’t like controversial material; this could offend you.)

It can be tough being born with a virtuous look. A coworker of mine put it in an interesting way: “The package you come in is sweet and innocent.”

I understand Natalie’s need to prove she’s not so sweet. It’s why I came back from New York with a black eye. And while I’d like to say, “You should see the other guy,” it’s more like, “I fought the table, and the table won.”

Klutzy, unable to hold my liquor, and sweet. Well, I guess there are worse things to be.

Superwomen need love too


2010
04.07

Oh Christina. How I love thee. I’m stoked for your next album, Bionic, mostly because you get it. Women ARE superheroes, and once in a while we are bionic.

You’ve been an inspiration to me through some tough years. You march to the beat of your own drum. And when my rhythm section went quiet, I cranked yours up. You rock, girl! You definitely make it onto my superhero list.

Here’s to all the women who make the world a better and different place. Show those women your love and appreciation. They may make it look easy, but we all need encouragement, love and affection. It’s superhero fuel. That and candy.

Movie Clip Monday!


2010
02.16

There are times when I wonder what people are thinking. I question authority. I don’t buy everything I read (and I haven’t even read everything I’ve bought).

Then I remember that it could be worse. I’m a woman in a time where I’m just viewed as “a little crazy.” I could have been born when this Monty Python sketch wouldn’t have been far from reality. Bless this decade!

An ode to Joanne, or My mom rules


2009
12.10

It’s that time of year again, and I’m not talking about Christmas. It’s Sagittarius birthday time. I tend to attract them. One of the centaurs that has been in my life the longest is my mother. In fact, it’s her birthday tomorrow.

Now we’ve had our ups and downs, but the fact is that she agreed to give birth to me, raise me as best she could and then unleash me onto the world.
Here (in no particular order) are five things that remind me of my mom, Joanne.

My mom read this book to me when I was very young. In fact, she instilled in me a great love of reading. Because of this, her attempts to get me to go to sleep at a decent hour were no match for the flashlight and good book I had under my bed. I was accused of not being a morning person–how much of a morning person could I be when I was up until 4am reading? Thanks Mom, for giving me the gift of reading. (I wouldn’t be a writer without it.)

OK I know it’s cheesy, but my mom would sing this song to me at night before I went to bed. And it’s one of my favorite memories of being young. And it reminds me of how (as my mom told it) when I was born it was a record breaking heat wave, and she and I would open the windows in the hospital and reach for the sun.
Love it or hate it, it reminds me of my mom. “I’ll have a small french fry and a medium diet coke.” I can’t count the number of times I have been on the phone with her and she says, “Hold on, I’m just in the drive through… *speaks above order* …so anyway, I was playing this beautiful song on the piano…” If my mom wasn’t in such good shape, I would say something to her about it. But hey, she laid off me and my smoking, so I can’t say much. And since there is a McDonalds in every country around the world, this assures that I will think of her no matter where I go.
Lefse. My mom helped me achieve a life-long goal last year when she came to my apartment and showed me how to make lefse, a Norwegian treat. It was something that had long mystified and intimidated me. And it was delicious.
Mom went out, took a class and voila! She became a lefse extraordinaire! And when I was asked to make lefse the night before Thanksgiving this year, I didn’t bat an eye. You want five pounds? Oh yah, sure! You betcha!
These words:
You can do anything.
You can be anything.
You could run a small county.

My mom said these to me over and over and over. When I was younger I saw this as pressure on me to do everything. What took me a while to realize is that she was just telling me she believed in me. And there is nothing more important a mom can do.

I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without Joanne. I wouldn’t have moved across a continent with the hope that I could get paid as a writer and then actually get a job as a writer if it wasn’t for her belief in me. And that is the coolest thing ever.

Mom, I love you. Thanks for putting your energy, love and devotion toward me. Thanks for never giving up on me. And thanks for being you. I hope you have a great birthday!

Good girlfriends–every woman deserves them


2009
04.12

I’ve been watching PBS lately. I’m not the biggest fan of television, but I think that if it’s not on a few hours a week I’m missing out on something. I’ve learned that volcanoes in Hawaii sing songs in tones lower than audible to the human ear, and if you want to make salmon burgers that aren’t too dry add some mushrooms and onions to them.

This morning there was a program about mothers exposing their “dark side” online, namely that they are still sexual, they sometimes don’t like their children and wonder why they became moms to begin with. Some women feel like online blogs and chat rooms are a good place to do this because they are anonymous and they feel like they aren’t being judged.

While I agree that that the Internet is a great place to sound off and be anonymous, I am sad that some mothers don’t have friends they can turn to in situations like these. Of course I’m not speaking from experience, but I’m sure that all of those feelings are common ones among mothers. Some women say they lose all their friends when they become a mother. I say, they weren’t good enough friends to begin with if they can’t stick by you in a time of extreme change.

Women have made great strides in the past 100 years. We can vote, own land, get divorced with minimal public scrutiny, be single or childless and not be accused of witchcraft or thrown in an asylum (most times), work in most occupations, and run for public office. I think the greatest challenge feminism has in this new era is learning how to work together as women.

I know many women who say they get along better with males than females. I’m one of them. However, in the past year I’ve had the good fortune of meeting some really great women. I spend most of my time with my women friends and have never felt to uplifted and on top of the world. When women come together and support each other in a nonjudgmental way, it’s amazing what we can accomplish.

My challenge to myself and other females is this: support each other. Work with each other instead of against each other. Let’s quit judging (or try to). No one is perfect or should they be. The world would be pretty boring if that were the case.

Can you really get a pedicure with your guy friends?


2008
08.17

August 16, 2008 – Saturday

You know what is so sad is that so many of us women were brought up on a steady diet of Cinderella and The Little Mermaid. Maybe the former had a pretty lousy life before her prince charming, but she ran her house and really didn’t need a man. Just a better estate lawyer. And Ariel? Well she was just a dreamer. All that natural curiosity and all she wanted was to make out with a prince? I doubt it…they should have started that movie when she kissed Eric so that we could see what an amazing woman she became on land because she never stopped asking questions. She could have been a great writer or at the very least a life guard.

Why were so many girls shown that happily ever after is just the wedding and nothing after? Isn’t that when your life is supposed to begin? The falling is fun but the real shit begins after the fireworks finale.

Or maybe for a second we should consider what life would be like if all the women in this world realized they didn’t need men the way the once thought they did. I don’t mean that we don’t need them at all. I think that they can be wonderful friends and lovers if held at the right distance.

I think that women are the masters of giving great advice and very seldom following it for themselves. So where does that leave us? We tell each other how to be in a relationship, we tell each other to kick that man to the curb, we tell each other that we’ll be there, but so many of us won’t take it to heart. And the others say it half-heartedly.

But what about women friends? Who can you trust? I’ve heard if they aren’t trying to steal your clothes they’re trying to steal your man. And I guess maybe you can make a case for that. But if we kept our guard down a little bit and were completely honest instead of showing half our hand we could be so much more close. It’s true you need to give trust to get it.

Why do women work against each other when together we could easily rule the world? Of course I think evolutionarily it boils down to who is going to get the better man for breeding. But when you put it all down on paper, women have to be everything to everyone almost all the time. We have to be the career woman, amazing mom, sex goddess, dedicated athlete, accountant, gourmet chef, beauty queen and entertainer. And that’s just Monday. What about us? What about all of our passion and love for the world? Why wouldn’t we take more time to develop and cultivate in each other the things we all care for? I mean, c’mon ladies!

Fifth grade made me a feminist


2008
03.30

March 29, 2008 – Saturday

I was listening to Dazed and Confused by Led Zepplin on the way downtown today when the line The soul of woman was created below made me think twice. Now I have always kinda liked this lyric because, quite frankly, it makes us ladies sound pretty bad ass. But today it struck me that maybe it wasn’t quite as cool as I thought.

I consider myself a feminist, and while I might sleep through certain parts of my life, once my passion gets fired up it’s hard to calm it down. (Sort of an “If your’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention” kinda thing.) So I’m walking down the block thinking of the story of Pandora’s box and Eve in the garden of Eden and I’m getting righteously pissed off! The feeling is familiar and almost comfortable. The first time I heard the myth of Pandora I was 11 — I freaked out at my fifth grade teacher for reading us such a sexist story!
Women have made great strides in the last century to be sure, but there is a fundamental view that hasn’t changed. My friend says it’s because the world tends to see things in black-or-white, yes-or-no terms. The madonna or the whore. The great double-standard. How can this be changed? Can it be? I know I fall into the trap as often as the next person and I’m supposed to believe in equal treatment for both sexes.
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