Resources & Gifts

This is a work-in-progress. Please come back as it changes regularly.


My Gifts

Over the past few months I’ve been working on creating more audio and offline guidance. Here are a few of my offerings:

Other Books & Resources

Immensely important to me, self-help books have augmented my therapy and been there when I couldn’t afford a counselor or just wasn’t ready to open up to one. Here are the ones I’ve read more than once and still sit on my shelves for reference.

Probably the first self-help book I ever read that I couldn’t put down, this is one that seriously changed my life for the better. I’ve read it at least four times and would recommend it to anyone who has issues with setting boundaries, putting themselves first and constantly caring for others.

From what I hear, this is a great book for people who grew up with really rigid rules, are married to alcoholics, are adult children of alcoholics, work in the service industry or work in a care-taking industry (read: nurse, LPN, nurse’s aid, etc.)

how to be an adult in relationships

After going through a tough divorce, I realized I had no idea how to be a friend or a lover. All the people around me acted in similar ways, so I didn’t have many role models. After spending time with some new people and seeing a counselor, she recommended I give this book a try.

It took me some time to be ready for it, but when I was, it really helped me to be a better friend and kinder human being. I attracted stronger, compassionate people into my circle as a result of how I began behaving with cues from this book.

artistsway

This book changed the way I wrote and lived. Inspiration for countless blog posts, including my Monday Morning Pages series, I highly recommend this to anyone, especially those of you who don’t consider yourself an “Artist.” I sure didn’t.
But this book taught me differently, opened my mind and put my in touch with my most inner self: my soul.

the courage to healThe Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

A hefty book, in more ways than one, I shunned the idea of having this in my house for months after my therapist suggested it. I’d check it out from the library and renew it, until it became obvious it was a resource I was using. Often.

Now it sits on my bookshelf, where I can refer to it when I’m struggling with a particular part of life that may (or may not) have something to do with my abuse. With chapters for close friends, lovers and relatives, this book really covers it all.

Forgiveness and moving on isn’t something you wake up and check off your to-do list. It takes time. You vascilate. At least I do. I know that not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the person you’re angry with to die, but still, it can be tough to let go.

This little book has been helping me do that. Every morning I read the paragraph or two for the day, along with an affirmation and a quote to go with it. Good stuff. And after a little less than a year, I can say it’s working.

self esteem help bookSelf-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning

Believe it or not, I don’t always feel like I’m the cat’s pajamas, or the kittie’s titties as my hubby sometimes likes to say. This book has loads of exercises in it to help you disarm your inner critic and believe you’re actually something special, which you are. And most days I believe it.

A caveat: Some of the exercises in this book advocate being mean to your inner critic, which doesn’t work for me. But it works for a lot of people, and the rest of the book is spectacular, so give it a shot.

healing the shame that binds you

Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw

Oh shame. The shit that just makes you feel terrible about being you. I have got that in spades. I’ve been working on this for years, which can be pretty typical for someone with my background. (Child sexual abuse survivor, divorcee, in recovery, etc.)

This book makes a lot of sense to me. Shame spirals and collages. Everything linked together, so that one tiny little thing can send you into a depressive episode because it reminds you of everything else bad you did. Blech. And it helps you break it. At least it did for me. It’s still a work in progress, I think.

While I’m not an active member of AA, the organization has some really great literature and does some awesome stuff for a lot of folks. You can read the Big Book, as it’s affectionately called, online for free. I recommend checking out the stories in the back. Really, some great stuff in there.

power of now

No joke, I am reading this again for the second time, along with Practicing the Power of Now. Seriously folks, there is some good stuff in here about mindfulness and living life in the only time we have: the present.

People

In my journey, I’ve worked with several counselors, therapists and coaches. Unfortunately, many of them have no online presence. If you’d like names of people I can recommend in Minneapolis, Minnesota; Santa Cruz, California; or Freiburg, Germany, contact me and I’m happy to provide them.  Below are the folks who continue to make a difference in my life.

Tanya Penny
A former occupational therapist, Tanya cured her own M.S. and other physical and mental ailments through therapeutic meditation practice. Her unique style of life coaching has helped me make some of the biggest strides in my life in a very short amount of time. I suggest signing up for her newsletter: inspiring videos and advice along with loads of freebie meditation practices and classes throughout the year.

Blogs

How could I not include the blogs that have helped and inspired me? I mean, I am a blogger after all! These are really in no particular order for now, except the order there were in my RSS reader. Remember, it’s a work in progress.

 Carrie On Sober

Mr. Sponsor Pants

Mrs. D Is Going Without

Running on Sober

And Everything After

Bye Bye Beer

Changing Course Now

Crying Out Now

Drunky Drunk Girl

Fit Fat Food

Guitars and Life

Message in A Bottle

Soberbia

Taking a New Path

Thirsty Still

Tired of Thinking About Drinking

Trudging Through Fire

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Zena Gardner November 4, 2016 at 5:20 am

I came across your blog completely by accident. Well nothing really happens by accident right?? You gave me hope that I could stop drinking. It is messing up my life. It slowly creeps up on you. It is making me depressed, despondant and unmotivated to get a job. I really heard what you said when you said you went from seriously depressed to seriously managing it. My life isn’t really even that bad. I have just become dependent on it and do not know how to make it go away. How do you NOT drink????

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