Resources & Gifts
Over the past few months I’ve been working on creating more audio and offline guidance. Here are a few of my offerings:
- 5 Secrets to Connecting With Your Soul: A two-part complimentary audio class, I open up about how I and others I know connect with the divine parts of ourselves. Wanna listen? Click here.
- 4 Ways to Journal for Those Who Hate Journaling: Hate journaling? Sign up now for my complimentary audio class to learn new tools and ways to get the benefits of journaling without pulling teeth. Click here to listen.
Other Books & Resources
Immensely important to me, self-help books have augmented my therapy and been there when I couldn’t afford a counselor or just wasn’t ready to open up to one. Here are the ones I’ve read more than once and still sit on my shelves for reference.
Probably the first self-help book I ever read that I couldn’t put down, this is one that seriously changed my life for the better. I’ve read it at least four times and would recommend it to anyone who has issues with setting boundaries, putting themselves first and constantly caring for others.
From what I hear, this is a great book for people who grew up with really rigid rules, are married to alcoholics, are adult children of alcoholics, work in the service industry or work in a care-taking industry (read: nurse, LPN, nurse’s aid, etc.)
After going through a tough divorce, I realized I had no idea how to be a friend or a lover. All the people around me acted in similar ways, so I didn’t have many role models. After spending time with some new people and seeing a counselor, she recommended I give this book a try.
It took me some time to be ready for it, but when I was, it really helped me to be a better friend and kinder human being. I attracted stronger, compassionate people into my circle as a result of how I began behaving with cues from this book.
A hefty book, in more ways than one, I shunned the idea of having this in my house for months after my therapist suggested it. I’d check it out from the library and renew it, until it became obvious it was a resource I was using. Often.
Now it sits on my bookshelf, where I can refer to it when I’m struggling with a particular part of life that may (or may not) have something to do with my abuse. With chapters for close friends, lovers and relatives, this book really covers it all.
This little book has been helping me do that. Every morning I read the paragraph or two for the day, along with an affirmation and a quote to go with it. Good stuff. And after a little less than a year, I can say it’s working.
Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
Believe it or not, I don’t always feel like I’m the cat’s pajamas, or the kittie’s titties as my hubby sometimes likes to say. This book has loads of exercises in it to help you disarm your inner critic and believe you’re actually something special, which you are. And most days I believe it.
A caveat: Some of the exercises in this book advocate being mean to your inner critic, which doesn’t work for me. But it works for a lot of people, and the rest of the book is spectacular, so give it a shot.
Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw
Oh shame. The shit that just makes you feel terrible about being you. I have got that in spades. I’ve been working on this for years, which can be pretty typical for someone with my background. (Child sexual abuse survivor, divorcee, in recovery, etc.)
This book makes a lot of sense to me. Shame spirals and collages. Everything linked together, so that one tiny little thing can send you into a depressive episode because it reminds you of everything else bad you did. Blech. And it helps you break it. At least it did for me. It’s still a work in progress, I think.
In my journey, I’ve worked with several counselors, therapists and coaches. Unfortunately, many of them have no online presence. If you’d like names of people I can recommend in Minneapolis, Minnesota; Santa Cruz, California; or Freiburg, Germany, contact me and I’m happy to provide them. Below are the folks who continue to make a difference in my life.
A former occupational therapist, Tanya cured her own M.S. and other physical and mental ailments through therapeutic meditation practice. Her unique style of life coaching has helped me make some of the biggest strides in my life in a very short amount of time. I suggest signing up for her newsletter: inspiring videos and advice along with loads of freebie meditation practices and classes throughout the year.
How could I not include the blogs that have helped and inspired me? I mean, I am a blogger after all! These are really in no particular order for now, except the order there were in my RSS reader. Remember, it’s a work in progress.